January 20:  Today was seriously busy. I didn’t get home until after 9 pm. Lots of meetings. But there also seemed an unusual amount of little niceties out in the world today. Lots of pleases and thank yous and traffic yielding. I just followed suit. Way to set an example, world!

January 19:  Today was a good day for niceness because I spent the morning at Joe’s school. Those fourth-graders do wonders for my cynical self. I saw a little girls compliment another girls boots. A boy lovingly teased a friend about is long hair. One girl helped another on her book report since they’d both read the same book. A group of boys read together, helping one of their group sound out the harder words. One boy offered to share his snack with me.

The secretary knows every kid by name and helped me get the temperamental laminator going. She is a woman of many skills. A fifth-grader held the door open for me when my hands were full.

Joe’s teacher, Miss D, had me make copies. That may not seem noteworthy except that I was making 10 copies of this, 20 of that 5 of another. Why? Because different kids are learning at different rates, and she tailors her teaching and homework to each and every one of those 25 kids. She borrows materials from a fifth-grade teacher, scours the net and flat makes lessons up.

The class is working on book reports right now, so after copying I checked in with each group to make sure they were getting key points, while she worked with a group at the back of the room that was a little behind. Her patience is endless, and the kids flourish under her attention. When the GT kids came back from GT class, their classmates caught them up.

Today was my day for the co-op kids — a day of controlled chaos that I love. Our co-op is made up of five families, 9 kids, 7 of whom are currently in the co-op (one is too young; one graduated to middle school this year and so takes care of herself, though she came and played today, which was great because I really miss her). We have a schedule for who has the kids each morning and afternoon, so no one needs to pay for before- or after-school care and so the kids help form a real neighborhood and just play.

Co-op day is also a good day for niceness. The older kids waited for the youngest. They played a great game of puppy piranha (I’m not clear on the rules, but scratching one behind the ears means you can get it to do your de-fleshing bidding). They help each other with homework, make sure the littlest can reach the chips.

Jason’s younger brother took him to a pro basketball game tonight — a rare treat. So Joe and I had the evening to ourselves. For once (FOR ONCE, Joe would say), I turned off the computer until just a few minutes ago and we just hung out. We ordered pizza, watched a new show on TV that was pretty awesome and will definitely make into the rotation, played some video games and just talked. I really (REALLY) need to do that more often.

Today, I am hard-pressed to think of anything not nice that I saw. I see no reason to do any such pressing. Instead, I am just going to go to bed, happy to live among all these amazing children who show me how to be without even thinking about it.

So I’m on Day 18 and terribly bored with myself and quite uncomfortable with talking about myself being nice. The way I’m doing this currently is defeating my purpose because I feel like there’s too much focus on me (because I’m just self-centered that way) and/or (depending on my mood) the stuff I’m listing isn’t particularly nice so much as simply decent.

I stopped listing on FB or Twitter than I’m doing this because that just compounds the problem of feeling like I’m making this too much about me.

Don’t get me wrong, I AM most definitely doing this for ME. I’m fighting the cynicism that has eaten away at my life the last few years. But the way I’m doing it is making me feel more like it’s about me than the niceness, which might be cynical, but I can’t tell.

So I’m revamping my little experiment in four ways:

1) I’m going to list anything and everything I can think of that I did out of niceness, rather than just one thing. Keep in mind I am not the nicest person in the world, so what feels nice to me may not to anyone else. It’s not about what I do, it’s about the intention I’m bringing to my actions. I’m looking for opportunities to be nice. Most days I get quite a few.

2) Sometimes I see the opportunity for niceness, but I don’t act. I think I’d like to list those too. Because maybe I’ll see a pattern there.

3) I want to list all the little acts of niceness I see each day. Nicenesses done for me or that I see out in the world (on those days I am actually out in it) or even what I see on TV news or on the Web.

4) I want to encourage people to share their nicenesses with me. Nicenesses done to you, for you or just that you see. I think getting to peek into other people’s niceness will help me in my fight against cynicism — and give me more ideas!

So I hope people will feel like joining me in my journey into niceness. Maybe we can all feel a little less cynical, even if it’s just for a few minutes each day. Hey, it’s a start!

January 18: Shared my sandwich. I love LOVE love Port of Subs. Sometimes I jones for a #3 on wheat like nothing else in the world. Today was one of those days. But the problem with Port of Subs is that the small is too small and the medium is too big — if I have chips. And it’s not like I’m going to skip the chips because the crunch of the chips is the perfect complement to the softness of the bread,the firmness of the lettuce and the slick of the salami. So today I bought my medium #3, came home, took one bite and realized I could have all my sandwich with no chips or half with chips and thus waste half of the wonder that is a #3 on wheat (because once the lettuce wilts, the magic is gone).That waste always kills me. It’s like not finishing a candy bar or getting Basil Haydens with rocks instead of straight. But Lynn was here and it occurred to me she might love the #3 on wheat as much as I do and that if I shared with her I could eat my chips without waste!

January 17:  I let the cat sleep on my lap while I was typing, even though he caused typos and wouldn’t stop drooling.